End of the year contemplation: my year in looks. Kicking off with last year’s very first outfit post – I would totally still wear this entire look – and finishing with the very last ones, I thought it would be fun to sum up some […]
Month: December 2015
Heard this one a lot lately: ‘In 2016 I’m going to try to relax a bit more‘. First, why wait for 2016 to do that? And second, do you already have a plan on how you’d like to accomplish that? Probably not. A few tips from this self-called pro (I’m kidding, but I just like to think of myself a pretty immmune to stress). No quick fix, no weird things you need to start eating, just a few things you’ve already got in you, you all you need to do is to let them out. Hope it’s at least a little bit helpful:
1. Stress is a matter of perspective.
I’m not making friends by saying this, because I know a lot of people will interpret this statement as ‘it’s all between your ears’ and therefore something you should get yourself over with. I’m not saying that at all. All I’m trying to say is that pretty often stress is the result of false beliefs and false expectations which lead to negative inner speeches and with that: stress. It’s easier said than done, but please keep in mind that sometimes you just have to accept that a certain situation is not going to change. You can’t control everything and if something is out of your control, why stress about it? Try to look at the things you can do, breathe, stand firm, and move on.
2. Question your thoughts.
In sequence of the aforementioned: you’re thoughts aren’t always right, especially if these thoughts are making you feel bad about yourself. Be able to examine them. We all know negative thoughts cause negative feelings, and pretty often we know how to invalidate the negative thoughts of friends, but aren’t capable of taking the edge off of our own. Whenever a negative thought comes up, try to take a step back and reevaluate if this negative thought is actually true. You’ll be surprised.
3. Me-time is important.
Even though I’m not a big fan of the term, me-time can really be everything. Take a bath, light a candle, read a book, go work out, treat yourself to a manicure. Or in other words: do whatever makes you feel like you’re pampering yourself. I know I lead a pretty busy life. With a more-than-fulltime job, my own business, friends and a boyfriend who like some attention every now and then it might seem like my agenda is always filled to the max. That’s almost true, since I learned how to prioritize: I know I’m able to handle all of the above because I know how to slow down as well. Me-time in my case can mean a quick shopping spree after work, a high intensity work-out or Netflix in bed. And nothing is going to stop me from doing this ;)
Huge cosy knit – Opportuno / Trousers – Asos / Sneakers – Celine
It has been three months since I decided to take Sixfeetfromtheedge.com to a new direction. Well, in fact it has been more than a half year already, but it has been three months since this all – finally – came together: a clear vision, multiple subjects, more textual content. To be honest: I was a bit done with only posting my outfits, even though I liked (and still like!) posting/shooting them, and looking at the statistics I know you guys like watching them too, it wasn’t me anymore. At least, not every day. I’m more than the sum of my urges (shopping, clothes, shoes..), and in 2016 I would like to take this approach even further.
Anyway, I was about time I changed my lay-out as well. Just to match it with the current state of mind I was in. An online space that reflects my personal style, my inner thoughts and my overal personality in fact. This is where the search began: who am I going to trust with this job? Since I’m by no means a web designer, who is going to understand the ideas I’ve got and who will be able to translate these thoughts into something visually attractive, something that works, something cohesive? I needed someone that could turn my visions into something physical. And in order to do so, I needed someone to be able to understand what I meant with ‘minimalistic-but-not-empty’. ‘Clean-but-not-hospital-like’. ‘No-fuss-but-with-personality’. ‘Scandi-with-a-touch-of-Amsterdam’. ‘Simple-but-certainly-not-boring’. I can go on like this for ages, but it all boiled down to this: I wanted it to be me. And I am all of the above. I found the answer in Sophia.
Sophia started her own online platform a few years ago. With Blog and the City Sophia gathers different bloggers from all over the world into one platform, but with one thing in common: a pretty minimalistic, no-nonsense style. Exactly what I like too (I’ve even been on of BATC’s guest bloggers last year). On Tao of Sophia she gives us a peak into her own personal style: she sees her blog as ‘an extension of her mind which basically consists of visual fashion and philosophical thought process’. We turned out to be the right match.
Sophia understood I was looking for: she understood how much I love a clean, simple, minimalistic approach, but at that same time I’d like to see myself as a playful minimalist. I love a slightly rock-inspired edge (#nevernotwearingmyskullring), a little something-something that gives that minimalistic feeling slightly more personality. All in all: Sophia understood. And worth mentioning: her rates were a lot lower than many other web designers I contacted.
So to all the people who sent me e-mails, PM’s and texts, here’s the answer: it was all Sophia. And I’m still super thankful.