Heard this one a lot lately: ‘In 2016 I’m going to try to relax a bit more‘. First, why wait for 2016 to do that? And second, do you already have a plan on how you’d like to accomplish that? Probably not. A few tips from this self-called pro (I’m kidding, but I just like to think of myself a pretty immmune to stress). No quick fix, no weird things you need to start eating, just a few things you’ve already got in you, you all you need to do is to let them out. Hope it’s at least a little bit helpful:
1. Stress is a matter of perspective.
I’m not making friends by saying this, because I know a lot of people will interpret this statement as ‘it’s all between your ears’ and therefore something you should get yourself over with. I’m not saying that at all. All I’m trying to say is that pretty often stress is the result of false beliefs and false expectations which lead to negative inner speeches and with that: stress. It’s easier said than done, but please keep in mind that sometimes you just have to accept that a certain situation is not going to change. You can’t control everything and if something is out of your control, why stress about it? Try to look at the things you can do, breathe, stand firm, and move on.
2. Question your thoughts.
In sequence of the aforementioned: you’re thoughts aren’t always right, especially if these thoughts are making you feel bad about yourself. Be able to examine them. We all know negative thoughts cause negative feelings, and pretty often we know how to invalidate the negative thoughts of friends, but aren’t capable of taking the edge off of our own. Whenever a negative thought comes up, try to take a step back and reevaluate if this negative thought is actually true. You’ll be surprised.
3. Me-time is important.
Even though I’m not a big fan of the term, me-time can really be everything. Take a bath, light a candle, read a book, go work out, treat yourself to a manicure. Or in other words: do whatever makes you feel like you’re pampering yourself. I know I lead a pretty busy life. With a more-than-fulltime job, my own business, friends and a boyfriend who like some attention every now and then it might seem like my agenda is always filled to the max. That’s almost true, since I learned how to prioritize: I know I’m able to handle all of the above because I know how to slow down as well. Me-time in my case can mean a quick shopping spree after work, a high intensity work-out or Netflix in bed. And nothing is going to stop me from doing this ;)
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