The end of 2015 is nearing and to me – and many others – this time of the year is a time of reflection. My 2015 has been a great year in many respects, but why? I found out most of it came from the fact that I’m more and more discovering the concept of ‘me’. What I like, what I want in life and what I need to do in order to accomplish that. This can be something trivial – futile even – like my outfits or something more meaningful. Let’s start with summing up the first, and perhaps I’ll continue doing a few of these lists, finishing things off with what I learned about myself in general this year. Here we go:
Simple is not boring.
To be honest, I’ve never felt the urge to dress like an exotic bird-like creature, but there has been a time I did doubt my style in terms of being cool enough. Do you really need to add a bold print, feathers or glitters in order to be interesting? Nope, not necessarily. If you want to, go for it, but if it doesn’t feel like ‘you’, then just don’t. We all have our insecurities, I and certainly have mine, but I’m happy to say that my personal style really isn’t one of them. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I just like a clean and pretty simple style, always gravitate towards black – or at least modest colours -, and I’m not looking for this to change at all.
Quality over Quantity.
It’s been a few years ago that I started investing in higher quality – often more expensive – items instead of buying lots of poor quality on-trend items I won’t be getting a lot of wear out of. I even was a firm believer of following the 5 Piece French Wardrobe principle, and even though I’m not exactly sticking to that anymore, I still wear items I bought around that time (let’s say: 5 years ago? I bought my Acne Pistol boots in 2008, can you imagine?). So in the meanwhile I can say I’m definitely into quality over quantity by now. Doesn’t mean I never end up buying stuff at high street retailers, on the contrary – I’m a huge COS-fan and can’t stop drooling over H&M Trend this season, or every season – but I’m just more aware of the materials the items are made of and especially when it comes to bags and shoes: I’d rather invest in a great leather piece that will last for years instead of buying ‘fast fashion’ items I will regret buying anyway. I’m not rich enough for disposable fashion ;)
Black is always a good idea.
Not really something I learned this year, just something that’s always on my mind when buying something new: should I – for once – opt for the coloured version or should I stick to black? Earlier I tried to convince myself it might be a good idea to try a pop of colour every now and then (which can still be really nice, see the red pop I’m wearing in this very outfit post), but in my case I’m trying to stick to the following rule: if it’s available in black/grey/navy as well: get that one. The outfits I felt most comfortable in are always the ones that consisted out of lots of black, so I decided to not change this winning team.
Keep your shoe game strong.
I’ve always been a shoe addict and I’ve never been afraid to admit it. My grandma used to be a shoe-hoarder, my dad has a soft spot for footwear so I had to become an addict as well, right? Even though my shoe closet is filled with all kinds of shoes, I alway tend to grab the pairs that are not necessarily elegant. Also something I inherited form my father (sorry dad! ;)). Sneakers aren’t really considered feminine in general, but when it comes to boots I can’t help myself but liking chunky boots, like Dr. Martens, better than the elegant type. They give my outfits the edge I’m looking for and most of them are way more comfortabel anyway. No thin heels. No small straps. No discomfort. ‘Don’t you like the occasional elegant pair of heels?’. Hell yes, I do. On a shelve. Hardly ever on my feet. With the exception of formal parties.
Which I never attend.
Oversized rather than undersized (if that’s even a word).
My size is not the smallest size I’m able to squeeze myself in. My size is the size I look best in, that makes me feel most comfortable in and allows me to breathe through the entire day (luxury!). When in doubt, I always end up buying one size up. Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to wear a size XL when you’re an XS, but you get the idea: ill-fitting clothes, especially when too small, won’t make you look classy, won’t make you look thinner (!) and won’t make you feel comfortable. No one is going to see the number on that tag and honestly: no one will/should care.
You can wear amazing bra’s when you’ve got bigger breasts.
Eye opener! I was being told I shouldn’t wear those cute little bra’s because my cup is – how to say this nicely – slightly more prominent ;). But during my search for bra’s (oh, the horror!) I came across lots of those in D+ cups (for those who are super-interested, I usually wear a D or E cup, but not the type of person who likes to show that off..). In fact, I found them everywhere. Of course this all depends on the amount of support you think you need, but I was happy to discover them. Also, your bra’s don’t have to look like you stole them from your grandma’s closet, they don’t have to be hearing-aid-coloured and they don’t have to be expensive. My personal fave? Asos!