You know one thing I always try to do when buying new stuff? Whether it’s furniture, shoes or kitchen equipment (as if..): I always try to justify my purchases. Doesn’t always mean I always make the right choices, but at least I try to justify […]
Month: January 2016
We live in a world where everything is fast, fast, fast. Our default answer to the question ‘hey, how are you doing’ seems to be ‘I’m doing fine! Super busy!’, and I’m certainly one of the people who lives a fast and furious life too. Always on the run. Always connected. And I don’t even regret that. Doesn’t mean I’m not aware of the fact that living like that doesn’t always means achieving my most important goals in life. So what is key? It’s being able to take a step back every now and then.
It’s easy to forget the things you really want in life and career, simply because you keep on pushing with the daily grid. In fact, that pushing-through-mentality can even be super disadvantageous for your results (not achieving what you thought you were working for so hard), your self esteem (because you feel like you failed not achieving your goals) and your health (stress doesn’t do you any good). It might feel really counter intuitive, but stepping back from all of it might be the answer.
But what does stepping back mean actually?
For me stepping back means enabling myself to create an environment that’s different from my usual habitat and find a place where I will no longer be distracted by all the things I considered important that week. Or month. Or the past few years. Not that I no longer consider them important (I mean: my work is still important te me, by business is too), but I feel like re-focusing will in the end leave you more motivated to do the right thing afterwards.
For example. I like to use the island I told many times about, Texel, as our own little refuge. Somehow I’ve always been drawn to the sea, and on the other hand I’ve always been a bit scared of it. This contradistinction makes this environment interesting, challenging and totally different from what I’m used to. Living in a larger city, the sea with its beaches are an unnatural setting for me. A place of great danger. Tides, currents, waves, wind. Each presenting their own hazards, and none of which can be ignored. The slightest lapse of judgement can be a mistake you might never recover from. Sounds a bit dramatic, but it also forces me to think about something else than budgets, deadlines and the amount of likes on my latest Instagram picture. Overall it brings me huge benefits on so many different levels as well. For instance:
- It helps me to re-assess, regain focus, with as a result: a much clearer perspective.
- Clear perspective to me equals: being able to see what’s important and what can wait. So in fact: prioritise. I’m even proud to say I’ve gotten quite good at this.
- This results in better and new ideas. Also: new solutions to problems.
- Some problems aren’t even considered problems anymore. Suddenly they can feel futile, or at least like then can be overcome. Even that can be a huge relief.
- After a weekend on the island I come back with much more energy. I’m talking about work-related energy – looking forward to getting things done – and physical energy: I’m happy to say I got back into my work-out routine again.
- More energy leads to more motivation.
- More motivation lead to…? Right. No need to explain.
- Being productive feels good. It gives me an overall feeling of well-being.
- The courage to look back and take control of the molding clay can be one of the most liberating things you do.
- Ever tried looking like you again? I’ve more and more come to terms with my bare face (I still remember that time I was around 15/16 years old and I didn’t even consider running a quick errant without mascara on!), and I can even say it feels really good to get rid off everything decorative every now and then.
So I would really recommend you to try this yourself: take a step back every now and then. Find that refuge. This doesn’t necessarily need to be an island. It can be everywhere, even your couch (think: blankets! Netflix! Snacks within reach!) will do. Realise that taking one step back eventually will result in jumping multiple steps forward. Your future self will thank you for it.
Wow, with the blink of an eye the weekend was over. Happens to me almost every weekend, but this time it almost felt unreal. Spent my entire weekend working on a project I can’t reveal much about, but it involved a lot of styling/shooting, so I can’t really complain. Also, we decided to change our interior a bit, move around the furniture (great thing to do at Sunday evening at 10pm..) and I’m planning on buying some small new things like pillows, etc.. Small changes to create a whole different look. Hope my better half agrees ;)
About outfit: all black on a grey day in Amsterdam. Since I’ll be working from the office the entire day I like to dress a bit comfortable (oh the horror when you have to sit with high waisted skirts or too tight jeans the entire day), and in that case I almost always opt for a comfy pair of jeans (plain black skinnies this time),an oversized knit and comfy & cool sneakers. You can call this my uniform. Hope you all have a nice start of the week, make it a good one!
In this third article for the Happy Thoughts section I’m going to give you guys the occasional update of random things that make me happy. Because you know.. they’re happy thoughts for a reason. This can be anything, literally anything, from personal stuff to something […]