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PERSONAL BODY PLAN: CONFIDENCE

PERSONAL BODY PLAN: CONFIDENCE

​Time for some personal reveries, because boy did I do some contemplating since I started my Personal Body Plan journey… First of all, I want to point out that I really don’t want to come across as this whining person with a negative vibe around […]

PERSONAL BODY PLAN UPDATE

PERSONAL BODY PLAN UPDATE

As you have already seen in this post, I started my Personal Body Plan journey last month. A bit scared, a bit sceptical, but most of all: very excited. I received quite some questions about how I experienced this first month, so I’m trying to give […]

DIARY POST

DIARY POST

It has been a while since I did my last diary post and because it’s one of the things I really like to read on other blogs, I decided to do another one. Just because Instagram shows a little sneak peek into my life, but never really shows what my thoughts were behind taking the pics. So here we go:

1. Even though it’s been a few months already, I’m still in the process of downsizing my wardrobe. These boots definitely aren’t going any where, can you blame me? Got them at Sarenza last year. 2. Chilling on the couch. I’m not really a couch patato, but after a long work day of a satisfying day during the weekend there’s nothing more relaxed than crashing on the couch. With my love. And the latest episode of Game of Thrones. 3. Rediscovered this old ensemble and I’m so happy we are able to wear Summer clothes again. 4. Paid a visit to the Rijksmuseum in Amsterdam. Playing tourist in our own city is something my love and I really like to do during the weekends. Isn’t this library amazing? 5. Wrote an article about my happy place and how having happy feelings can make me insecure. Read it here, if you haven’t read it yet. 6. Haven’t had a single regret about getting these slip ons (twice..) last season.

1. Lunch break shopping! One of the things I like to do best during my lunch break: stroll around the city for a bit. Sometimes I just walk for an hour, sometimes I like to do a little bit of shopping.. found this navy number at COS and fell in love. 2.  Old but super comfy boots. 3. Can’t wait to wear this white love a bit more often. It’s pretty thick, so I might have to wait until after Summer.. 4.  Love this combo. Never expected to wear this cute little Furla bag as much as I do, but I love how it works with slightly less ‘chiq’ items like the ripped, baggy jeans I’m wearing in that particular outfit. 5. Clarks did a great job with these shoes from their Trigenic collection (available at Sarenza), so comfy! 6. Dark blue denim is my new fave. Can’t believe how many possibilities this jacket has. Found it here, but I’ve been thinking about getting this embroidered one too..

1. After 5 or 6 six years, I’m still madly in love with these Isabel Marant Dicker boots. Such fail-safe classics! 2. One of the looks I was wearing in Bruges, where I spent a great weekend with my lovely mom. 3. New sunnies. I’m a sucker for classic Ray Bans (I think I’ve got almost all shapes and colours, I should start me own little store ;)) but love this tortoise pair I found on sale. 4. The Nike Metcon‘s. Best training shoes I ever had. I might have something to do with the fact that I work in a sports business, but it surprises me every time again that so many people in the gym are wearing the wrong shoes! I see Nike Roshes and Huaraches around me all the time.. please guys, these are your post work-out shoes ;) 5. Cute little tee I for a couple of euros at H&M. Love it to bits. 6. Bruges. Reminds me of two things.. First: I want to spend more time with my parents. And second: I want to travel more.

TALKING INSECURITIES

TALKING INSECURITIES

Our generation is being called a narcissistic generation. Somehow, when I don’t think about the statement too long, I tend to agree. I mean, with all the technology and social media going on, sometimes I feel like we’re getting an inflated sense of ourselves. But […]

HAPPY THOUGHTS: V

HAPPY THOUGHTS: V

It has been a while since I did my latest Happy Thought article. In this fifth article for the Happy Thoughts section I’m going to give you guys the occasional update of random things that make me happy. Because you know.. they’re happy thoughts for […]

PERFECTION IS BORING ANYWAY

PERFECTION IS BORING ANYWAY

‘If you’re as much into this as you say you are, I’m going to do this.’. He looks her in the eyes and tells her he’s fully committed to helping her out and to shooting her outfit pictures on a daily basis from this day on. That they’re going to be in this together. That it will perhaps even boost her confidence a bit to do something that isnt’ too performance orientated – she has always been a huge striver, an over-achiever – but also something that would probably really push her boundaries, because she has always been that girl that lived her life in a rather predictable way. That girl that has always performed really well in school, so she’d passed over one class and obviously went to University at the age of 17. That girl that couldn’t wait to move out of the house, not because she couldn’t get along with her parents, but the complete opposite: they raised her to be that independent, to mature early. That girl that despite her academic accomplishments doesn’t like to be in the center of attention. All has been well in her little corner of the world so far, and she didn’t necessarily feel the urge to crawl out there, nor was she trying too hard to stay in. It was about time she started doing something for fun. For her pleasure only, and not because it gave her good grades (over-achiever? Yup!). So that’s why 8 years ago she started Sixfeetfromtheedge.com. Her personal little space in that huge digital world. “It’ll be fun.” he said. At least he seemed convinced.  

Flash forward to the present. In the meanwhile, SFFTE isn’t that shy student anymore. I’ve grown. Not that I’m the one screaming for attention now, but I’m no longer hiding either. Also, Lennart indeed turned out to be a great help, I’m fully aware of the fact that my blog could not have existed without him being around. I take pride in the fact that SFFTE has always been a reflection of my personality. I take pride in the fact that all these years staying true to myself led me to where I am now, but I also take pride in the fact that despite all the ups, downs, successes, fails, happy times and broken nights I’ve always been able to reevaluate what I’ve been doing, where I stand and not less important: where I want to be. I always want to remain curious and critical. It’s in my nature I guess.

So here’s the deal: I noticed – and I know I’m not the only one – we’re en masse getting bored of the perfect #lifeporn dripping from our screens these days, and so am I. Too perfectly styled images of too perfect lives that don’t look like they’re being lived. I’m talking about those images of large white spaces with one single Eames chair and a large cactus in it (guilty!). I’m talking about fruit bowls with fruits you can’t find in your average, local super market, next to your marble printed note book (guilty!). I’m also talking about the naked – but perfectly tanned – model-like (not guilty :’)) legs in that huge and insanely white bed, next to today’s newspaper, a cup of coffee, macarons, a single flower (?), the newest perfume bottles (??) and some make-up brushes (??? I mean, who uses these things in bed?). I’m talking about that seemingly effortless way of (Instagram)life, that took loads of effort to portray. I’m talking about the well known coffee-cliché-picture. The one that secretly isn’t about the cup of coffee, but about the $2.000 designer bag that is carefully positioned next to it. I’m talking about that insanely fit girl that is trying to convince you that if you work out just as much as she does, never have a pizza night on Sunday evening anymore and punish yourself  with an extra tough training for failing in the exceptional event you do indulge for once, your life will suddenly be more than perfect. I mean, look at her smile, she must be happy, so she must be right! Right..?

We always compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel. A habit that doesn’t necessarily has to be good or bad, but one that can make you feel bad about yourself. And in a society that profits from your self doubt, loving yourself almost feels like a rebellious act. I think we’re done with being perfect. We’re done with keeping up appearance. We’re done with wrapping ourselves in rainbows, macarons and unicorns. Doesn’t mean we have been trying to fool our audience all that time, I can assure that I’ve never done anything against my will, never posted a positive post about a product I didn’t like only because I was offered a certain amount of money and I definitely never felt like I had to do so in order to fit in, but on the other hand it started to bug me more and more that I also had my share in keeping the aforementioned alive by rigidly posting monochrome pictures on my Instagram channel filled with social moments, sneakers, and smiles. All with a clinically white background. Perfection?

I’m by no means saying I’m giving up on the type of photography I’m currently using on my Instagram, simply because that’s the style I like best and suits my vision on aesthetics. Also: Eames chairs and cactuses are cool. And so are cupcakes. I just want to become slightly less rigid in showing that perfectly composed Instagram grid, and start sharing snippets of my less undersaturated life. I even thought about bringing my Snapchat (@SFFTE) account back to life – I really, really tried it last year, let me know in the comments if you’d like that – and even considered starting a You Tube channel for the sake of bringing back the realness I’ve be craving for myself. That last option isn’t something I can see myself doing in the near future, but I’ve noticed that now that I started blogging about more personal/lifestyle subjects, but also started writing content with a little bit more depth occasionally, that’s also what you guys like to see (AND I LOVE YOU FOR THAT!). I love the fact that apparently you’ve been growing into this with me since I’m getting the feeling (and e-mails, and messages ;)) you’re starting to like a good read as much as I love to write that story. A story that is relatable. A story that’s sometimes about me, but can also be one of my many reveries. One that can be about something amazing that has happened in my life, or something that is a little less happy-happy-joy-joy. A story that can be about others: other real people or events that inspire me. A story that is all of the above: real.

So Lennart was right all along. All I had to do was what I do best anyway: to be me. An unfiltered, unpretentious, unaffected (goofball!) me. It’ll be fun indeed. I’m convinced.

HAPPY THOUGHTS IV

HAPPY THOUGHTS IV

In this fourth article for the Happy Thoughts section I’m going to give you guys the occasional update of random things that make me happy. Because you know.. they’re happy thoughts for a reason. This can be anything, literally anything, from personal stuff to something that […]

10X @SFFTE

10X @SFFTE

My week in pictures. I’m planning on doing this on a monthly basis, just because I think it’s a nice way to catch up on things that have happened in my life, and because I always like to have a little peek in other people […]